For Phyllis

When I wrote about our friend Todd’s visit with “Martie” and Sissie the other day, I didn’t mention why he was back in Mississippi because it just didn’t seem like the right time.

But here’s the “why” of it all: Todd’s mama, Phyllis, has been battling cancer for the last year and a half. A couple of weeks ago she had an MRI, and once Todd heard the results, he hopped on a plane and came home. The doctors knew at that point that it was the beginning of the end, and Todd knew where he needed to be.

Todd doesn’t know this – because I would cry if I said it out loud – but the way he has responded to his mother’s illness has been inspirational to me. In the last eighteen months, he has flown home to Mississippi at least ten times. He’s been there for birthdays, for holidays, for just-because days. I can’t even imagine what his love and devotion has meant to his family. I doubt they could put it into words.

Yesterday Todd called us with the news that his mama had passed away. She was at home, surrounded by the people she loved the most. D. and I have so many great memories of Phyllis – and our lives are all the richer for having known her. Please keep Todd and his family – Bill, William, Cindy, Vince, Paige & Jeff – in your prayers.

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  1. (((((Todd))))) I will pray for them.

  2. What a blessing Todd wass to his mother.This family will be in my prayers.

  3. We sold our house last year and moved three states away home when my dad was diagnosed. God allowed us a fast sale and we were home in 30 days. I had the honor of caring for him, in his home, his last 87 days- and my kids got to enjoy him up to the last.
    I will add Todd and his family to our prayers. We are walking the road they have just stepped into.

  4. I am sorry for everyone’s loss. They are in my prayers.

  5. Praying for Todd, and his family. Your blog is a blessing to me.


  6. Phyllis must have been a remarkable woman to have raised such a thoughtful, remarkable son. I will pray for Todd and his family.

  7. Praying for your friends. . .

  8. I will keep them in my prayers…How great to see a man beoome that focused and show that kind of love for his mother. It speaks volumes for what kind of husband and father he may be and for the type of family he was “raised in”
    Please keep another Mississippi family in your prayers…the Nason’s. They lost their 11 yr old son today to cancer. His Mom’s strength has been amazing!

  9. I will keep Todd and his family in my prayers. He sounds like a wonderful son and I’m sure was a comfort to his mother.

  10. I’ve been praying for them and will continue to do so. I bet Todd’s visits meant more than he could ever even realize.

  11. Well, Phyllis certainly raised a wonderful son. What a terrific testimony to her parenting abilities. My prayers are with Todd and his family. I lost my mama to cancer in 1999, and it is still awfully hard on all of us, especially around the holidays. And God bless you and D for being such supportive and loving friends.

  12. Lea Margaret says:

    Please give Todd my love! Bless his heart!

  13. What an inspiration that is!! His attention to her and family does show deep care/love and is such a model to those around him……Marty better keep him!!;-)
    thanks for sharing, and yes, I will pray for them all!
    Be sure and tell Todd that he is being prayed for by the internets!!!

  14. Todd is a perfect representation of the love of Christ. Thank you so much for sharing his story with us.

    I too will be praying for his entire family and praising God for such an example as Todd.

  15. my prayers to the family.

  16. Praying for everyone.

  17. Will do! I am so sorry to hear that.

  18. I love it when people use their “bads” for others’ good! What a testimony Todd must be to so many people! I’ll be praying for his family; thanks for letting us know.

  19. I lost my father to cancer 12 years ago, and it still hurts.

    Hugs to Todd!

  20. I have said a prayer of thanksgiving for Phyllis’ life and Todd’s blessing. May you all find peace in the midst of this sad time.

  21. How are Todd and his family doing?