Earlier this afternoon on Facebook, my sweet friend Amanda posted a link to an article called “Why Do We Let Girls Dress Like That?” – and I can’t stop thinking about it.
Honestly, I can get riled up and soapbox-y pretty easily about the things I see young (and not-so-young) girls wearing. Last week at Disneyland, for example, we saw teenage girl after teenage girl after teenage girl wearing shorts so short that my husband finally looked at me and said, “Did any parents see what these girls were wearing when they left their houses this morning? Because those little shorts they have on don’t really qualify as clothing.”
And he was right.
But here’s the thing. It’s pointless for me to just stand on my soapbox and point fingers where this particular issue (or any issue, really) is concerned. Because the fact of the matter is that many girls who dress immodestly (and, you could argue, the authority figures who allow it) make that choice because they don’t know their worth. If they knew their worth, they wouldn’t be looking for unhealthy forms of validation. If they knew their worth, they wouldn’t confuse the absence of appropriate boundaries with freedom.
And the thought of a nation – oh sweet mercy, a world – filled with young girls who don’t know their worth? Who don’t know that they were made with great, loving intention by the God of the universe, by the One who can clothe them with strength and dignity?
It breaks my heart. And it scares me.
But on the up side, it also renews my admiration and appreciation for all you mamas and daddies who refuse to bow down to the culture, who consistently do an incredible job parenting and leading and discipling your young girls. I know it’s not easy. It can’t be.
So here’s to fighting the good fight (IN LOVE), y’all. It’s worth it. The girls (and boys) in our families, schools, churches and communities are worth it.
Especially when they don’t know it.
But let’s pray that one day they will.
as a mother of two girls and one son, this is the topic probably most near and dear to me–for all three of them. it breaks my heart. oh, that i would be the kind of mother who endears my children to Jesus through the life i live!
Very well said! Amen sister!
Great post. My baby girl is now 18 and trying to “find her way”, which means dressing as she wants without regard to how we feel. Which is starting to scare me.
Her therapist is telling her that she is now 18 and should be thinking about her needs and wants, regardless of our feelings. You know. The whole you are an adult thing …
So, I will talk to her more about her worth, as we have done for so many years – and which has worked.
I am not prepared to be the parent of an instant adult. Spread your wings, my child, but please- do not just jump headfirst out of the nest until you are really ready. A number does not define who we are. Simply how far we have come, and how more we have to go.
I do not mind that you may not hold my hand, but an occasional hug here and there will keep me happy, just fine :)
Excellent. Just excellent. I have two very young daughters and I hope to raise them to know their worth. I also have two young boys, and I hope to raise them to not only know their own worth, but to know and respect the worth of women.
God help me, it will be hard.
Thank you for this post. I’m new here! :)
Oh, my, this is one of my soapbox-y issues. I have 2 daughters, and my oldest is tall for her age. So she grew out of the 6X clothing at about age 5. That’s when I discovered that apparently girls’ size 7 is when they are supposed to start dressing like hoochie mamas. She is hard to fit anyway, and so I have real trouble finding clothes that both fit well and are appropriate for her age (she’s nearly 9 now and will soon be in teenager sizes based on her height and weight…ack!). Particularly when you get to dresses. She loves dresses. But dresses that make her look like the sweet little girl she is instead of a wannabe Hannah Montana or WORSE are few and far between. It really does take some thought to dress girls nicely and modestly, and often it isn’t cheap either. So when the stores are absolutely filled with short-shorts and other revealing clothes, it’s hard to blame the teen and tween girls for choosing unwisely. The sexualization of younger and younger girls in our culture is VERY concerning to me.
You are so right. It is scary, but there is hope. With so much to guard against in this world we need to pray parents don’t become weary and give in to the world’s standards for their daughters. Trust in the Lord and stand firm. Thanks for sharing.
A-MAZING post. As the mom of a nine-year-old daughter – and I sincerely hope they don’t include that age in the “tween” category – I am constantly appalled by the choices she is offered in stores. Thankfully, as a bit of a tomboy she isn’t interested in most of it, but I can only imagine how much more difficult it must be for the moms of miniature fashionistas. I haven’t bought her many pairs of shorts in the last few years, save for a couple of Bermuda shorts (from a consignment shop, no less) because those in the stores were ridiculous. Thank God for capri pants!
“If they knew their worth, they wouldn’t confuse the absence of appropriate boundaries with freedom.”
So true. SO true.
One of the things I LOVE about where we live is that they let kids be kids. There is no hurry to grow up, and clothing is simple, sweet and modest!
very true! we need to raise some secure daughters.. i really enjoy your blog. & i think it is important for us to take some stands & get all “soapbox-y” on matters that are as important as this. girls need to know who they are in Christ & how special they are to their Creator. the world cannot give them the validation that they are seeking…amen sister! :)
This post is spot on!!! I read the WSJ article yesterday, too, and it is heartbreaking, but I think you’ve hit the nail on the head… what is heartbreaking is what’s behind the immodesty. I just spoke to our college girls at church on Identity & Culture and Identity & Purity. It’s scary what these girls (and guys!) face. Let’s drown them in Jesus’ love while they’re little, so they can last when they’re swimming against the current!!!! Thanks for posting. :)
I have taught in the public schools for 22 years and have seen this trend come in with the students in the schools at which I have been. It is heart breaking to tell a fourth grader her skirt is too short for school.
I though we would never see dress codes in elementary school but now they are necessary for both boys and girls.
Excellent!! I have a soon to be 15 year old daughter and thank GOD she dresses pretty conservatively. She will not wear short shorts and if she thinks a top is too low cut (no matter if I tell her it’s not) she wears a cami underneath. She rarely wears makeup even if I’d like to see her with a little bit of mascara.
I am so proud of her and hope that she continues to be herself and not what others think she should be.
*Clap, clap, clap*!! BooMama, I totally agree. I’m not raising a daughter, but every time I see a beautiful young woman (or even an older woman) dressing like…let’s just say it…a prostitute…its all I can do not to grab a blanket or towel and wrap it around them. I want to say, “You are worth too much to dress so cheap!” It breaks my heart to no end.
Though not a mother, I work with both children and youth on a regular basis. It is sad the age they start wearing clothes that I would deem immodest. There is so much in the world of fashion that I despise. So much in the world…yet God’s Word tells us not to be conformed to the patterns of this world, but transformed by the renewing of our minds. Something tells me that when we renew our minds to what God would have us renewed, there isn’t anything that speaks of us dressing in what shouldn’t qualify as clothing.
I think you are right on in the subject of worth. If only they only knew their worth. If only they knew that their security could be found in God alone instead of what is “popular” or “in-style.” If only their hearts were found transformed by God.
My husband and I are constantly discussing this issue. With two little boys and a baby girl, we feel like we are going to have to remain vigilant about this for many years to come.
It is so sad to see so many young girls want to dress like the images they see on US Weekly or their favorite tv show. I can’t even fathom how challenging it is for parents of these age children…my little girl is currently crawling and 100% at my mercy for her clothing. (I must admit that periodically she does crawl around shirtless. I better get it under control.)
I love you, Sophie. Thank you so much for sharing your heart. And you are SO right. The correct response is not disgust at their “immorality”–it’s heartache that they don’t know their value, their worth.
I can’t thank God enough for giving me 3 girls who (at least for now at 10, 8, and 5) are tomboys (i.e. crew-neck t-shirts and long gym shorts). Plus they get so much love from their daddy. And they know how much God loves them. I’m too blessed.
Showing other girls (and women) their immense worth in God’s eyes (and mine!) is one of the HUGEST burdens on my heart.
Did I already say I love you? I love you.
Amen.
Beautiful!
Thank you for framing this conversation in terms of sorrow that girls do not understand their own worth. I serve in a ministry that reaches out to women who work as exotic dancers, and there’s no doubt in my mind that if they knew how God cherishes them, they’d never end up in those jobs. And if the men customers had any idea that each woman was created in the image of God, they’d have to close the clubs down altogether.
I am glad you shared that article, and I did as well. It is a shame what it out there for our girls to wear. My 12 yr old is moving into the Jr Dept due to her height, and it is just awful what is out there. It is cheap trash! If I am to find any decent clothing for her, I will have to spend more money on clothes that are modest and cover everything. I just may resort to grandma’s mumu. At 12 and 13 we do not need anything to accentuate anything!
At our house you can’t praise Jesus if we can see your bellybutton.
I’m 22 years old and am surrounded by peers who think less is more in the clothing department. I was raised by pretty strict parents, plus I went to Catholic school, so I always dressed pretty modestly. This past weekend I went out with four guy friends in the city, and I wore cute skinny jeans, boots, and a new shirt. I looked cute but still classy. But I was appalled at the way the other girls who were out were dressed. And my guy friends were even saying “she needs to put on pants” or “she forgot to finish getting dressed.” It makes me sad and these girls are just attracting the wrong kind of attention, and that it’s starting at such a young age.
It is soooo strange that you posted this today. My 15 year old daughter had a meltdown in the dressing room just yesterday when we were trying to find a dress for her that both of us approved of. She is very tall and thin so EVERY dress was too short. She only owns two dresses… TWO… because we can’t find any that she can wear without looking like a streetwalker. To add insult to injury the saleswomen were bringing her 4 inch high heels to put on with the short dresses…. which made them look even shorter. This is a very stressful subject in our house right now.
Agree-Its hard to find modest clothes for my 10 year old daughter. not a problem for my son. The road is narrow…..
I have three daughters (10, 8, 5), and we started at birth with the no skanky clothes thing. I kid you not…my s-i-l bought the baby a bikini, and we did NOT let her wear it. Overkill? Maybe, but I don’t care. Now they are old enough, and make most of their own choices. I have to frame it in a way the 10 year old will still know that she is beautiful and precious no matter what she wears, and that her clothes need to accentuate the beauty within, not the parts that should always be covered. Not always easy, but ALWAYS worth it. My girls are absolutely gorgeous (IMHO) and I don’t want some stinky little boy :-) getting ideas about them! Have you heard the Jonny Diaz song called “More Beautiful You”? Illustrates this perfectly, and is now our “theme” song for preparing our babies. Good luck mamas, you can do it!
Right on Sophie!! It is ironic and pitiful that young women, and in some cases older women, have no idea that modesty actually turns a man on much more than overt sexuality. How foolish to follow the world’s value system.
You really should get involved with high school/ college age women… either through church or through Chi O. Oh how they need someone like you.
Oh sister…this topic gets my blood boiling!
I have a college son, Gavin…who is patiently waiting on “the special girl” God has for him. In the meantime, he’s surrounded by young women who have fallen for the lie. The one that says, “Dress sexy!”?! He feels sorry for them and tries (by his own example) to be a different kind of guy friend. One that cares about them as God’s girls! Not fleshly ones!
Then, I have two teen daughters in HS (where I work). Both of my girls are known for their style/fashion sense. Neither of them will wear shorty or sexual type clothes. But have been VOTED best dressed by their peers in a public school! WOW!
I feel blessed!
This started when they were little. The little short shirts? My girls refused to even touch them. They see what peers look like and realize people do judge you by what you wear.
I say it everyday…..”Didn’t an adult see you leave this morning?” (to myself that is) :)
YIKES!!
I agree with you completely! As the mother of a 13 y-o girl, I am extremely thankful that she has caught on to our “three b’s” must be covered (booty, boo*ies & belly). My neice who is 9 wears a bikini, and she is always wondering why I won’t let her. I say I know she is beautiful, but I don’t want the people, boys, men looking at her to see her in any way that is inappropriate. For now this still grosses her out and she doesn’t complain too much. It is a challenge as the go from 8-older, but really I just try to steer her toward cute things that are still appropriate – even if it means fewer things but may have to pay a bit more. We STILL never pay full price! LOL.
At the same time, I try to instill in my son (15) that the way he views the world, women, girls, is about respecting them as well. It is hard work being a mama!
Thank you for sharing about this.
Ohhhh do I so agree! I am so upset when I see young ladies(even older ones) who dress like they are selling a product. UGH!! I went to a meeting last night and it is about a Women’s conference for ladies to discover their worth and to learn how to impact our sphere of influence as well!! Women of Intentional Design is having a conference May 20th from noon to nine p.m. in Lynwood. The purpose is for all women to learn their God given gifts and worth!! May the God of Heaven reach down and help ALL of us Women to impact our world for His glory~ Love to you Jana!!
Very well said. I feel for these girls too, when I see them. I hope they will soon realize what they are capable of, what great women they can become and what they can achieve when people take them for who they are, for their thoughts, their visions, their talents, and not for the way they look, or their body.
This gave me the goosebumps, boomama. I so agree with you. It breaks my heart that my husband has to see immodestly clothed women and girls even IN CHURCH. Where are the fathers who should be protecting their girls and teaching them about the Lord of the Universe who has paid the price for their salvation? If they knew that they were bought at such a price, surely their hearts would be changed!
I’m DEFINITELY not agreeing that the girls are right in the way they dress – but having been shopping lately with my NINE year old who is 5 foot 1 and weighs almost 100 pounds which puts her solidly in the Jr. Dept. – there is a certain amount of what choice do that have?? There is very little to choose from.
We went shopping for a bathing suit for her last week. She was invited to a pool party and I realized the day before that her suit from last year was too small. We spent over 3 hours, went to 6 stores (counting the entire mall as one store) Costco, Walmart, Old Navy, etc.. – normal places! – before finally finding ONE suit available that was not a string bikini at Kohls and it was a larger child size not a junior size. Even at Kohls all the jr sizes were string bikinis. No tankinis, no sporty two pieces, no one pieces, only teeny tiny suits that would not be appropriate to me for a teenager and definitely not my 9 yr old. I was appalled. Of course, there are more options online, but we didn’t have that kind of time, and most teenage girls love the experience of shopping and ordering on the internet is just not the same thing.
We had the same issue looking for volleyball shorts a couple of months ago – the choices were super long basketball shorts that don’t really suit my fashionista kid or super, super short shorts. It took over 2 hours to find one pair of suitable shorts!!!
It’s disheartening, time-consuming, and makes me thank my God on my knees that she goes to a uniform school. The thought of shopping for enough school clothes for her if she didn’t would make me crazy.
I just want to give you all another side to this story: My daughter is 15-years-old and is considered quite pretty. She wears short shorts and I let her. Guess what? She knows her self-worth. She is the strongest minded, most well-adjusted and self-aware teenage girl that I know. She WILL NOT let any man/boy disrespect her and the ones that have tried, she has let them know she will not stand for it and has stopped speaking to them. She takes a lot of time in picking out her clothes and always looks nice ~ she does not dress ‘trashy’ even though she wears short shorts. Ok, I’ll step down from my soap-box now… :)
It’s hard sometimes to be a parent isn’t it? I think some people have given up. I have daughters. My youngest is reed thin with very long legs. As a teenager she would sometimes try on a skirt or come bounding down the stairs in something, take one look at me and say, “I know-you’re going to say it makes me look too leggy.” Yes. Exactly. That sometimes went over better than saying the skirt is too short. Sometimes its because they don’t know their worth but often, they just want to fit in and be part of the popular culture. Being different is not what most teens want but as a parent its our job to remind them that Christians ARE different. Parenting teenage girls certainly kept me on my knees : ) We’re into the 20’s now and it was worth every tear and sweat drop!
Oh girl, AMEN! This post brought tears to my eyes because, YES, they have no idea what they are worth in the eyes of their Creator. This horrible, wicked culture wants to turn all of them (us) into objects and we buy it hook, line and sinker. It hurts my heart as a Mama of a precious, precious girl, AND as a woman who has seen so many people used and abused.
Come quickly, Lord Jesus..
At this rate by the time Harper and Hollis are 10 years old they will be wearing bikini bottoms for shorts. NOT!!
I swear I was in TJM this past week and I shows HUBS a pair of shorts hanging up on display (for adults, not kids) that didn’t have enough material to make a small bookcover. These are also usually seen on girls who have made a few too many trips to Chick Fila for one of their delicious Banana Pudding shakes!! Just sayin’ !!! (my new love)
I haven’t read any of the comments yet but will. On my last trip to the mall I was with my sister. I looked at a girl who had a large chest and most of it was sticking out of her top. The large chest was what caught my eye until I looked up and saw that the girl was no older than 15 – 16 at the most. The cleavage she was showing was designed for one thing. Having men look at her. I thought the same thing – where is her mama? Did she see how daughter was leaving the house? It was embarrassing to me to see it much less if I was her mom. If you have shopped lately you know that most tops are v-necked and very low cut. I hate shopping! Everything you try on is too low and you must wear something underneath. Well if you want to remain modest you do. Shorts! Another thing that manufacturers are choosing to do on purpose. Why? Why? No one needs to have their butt hanging out in public. You see it everywhere. It’s why the Duggars choose blouses and skirts for their girls.
I am so sad for those teenagers who think they need that kind of attention. And what I saw oogling them were older men. That’s just disgusting.
Now I love the Real Housewives of anywhere but they too dress for men. I hate the cleavage/boobage area just hanging out there for all to see. I had all sons and so did not have to worry about dressing a teenage girl. But I did worry about those sons looking at those very same teenage girls. And since my youngest is 29 and my oldest is 39 you can imagine that clothes were more modest then. But even so I would not have been caught out in any of them.
I agree with you and your husband BooMama. The problem is that is it a widespread problem and girls think they need to dress this way to fit in. How do we get them to see that their worth is inside? I could also go off on the sun tans, the over done hair, the fake nails and the fancy cell phones. I never went to a hair salon until I went to college and certainly did not spend hundreds on my hair and nails.
Hugs from snowy Minnesota
Marie
AAAAAAAAAAMEN!
Yes! I sometimes get a little grief from my mom about being so concerned with what I wear my youngest girl wear because she is only 3 and modesty shouldn’t be an issue. But I keep insisting on the issue because it starts young. I know that we would not have the abortion debate that we have in this country if we spent a LOT more time helping girls realize their value and stop seeking affirmation elsewhere. Until that happens we are all yelling about symptoms rather than the issue itself.
AMEN!
As the mother to a 4 year old who’s Tall and Thin and starting to get into the size clothing, that screams Hoochie Mama this is a subject my husband and I discuss more then we would like to. For the life of me it breaks my heart that we scream about protecting our daughters innocence while all I can find to dress her in are low cut tops and skin tight jeans or short shorts (that make the ones of the early 80’s seem modest…)
Why must the fashion industry do this? I would love to see a post from you about some clothing that’s cute, fashionable, and appropriate for those of us trying to raise our daughters that there worth isn’t based on there body and sexuality.
Oh my goodness! I saw that article too and have a blog post ready to go up tomorrow about it. I hope you’ll check it out.
There is an excellent book by Hailey DeMarco called “Sexy Girls: How Hot is Too Hot?” that I read when my first daughter entered junior high. It was so enlightening to me–lots of stuff about guys that I didn’t even know (and I had been married for almost 20 years at that point!). I’ve made two of my three daughters read it (the third will probably read it this summer–she’s just 13.) Every teenage girl and her mama should read that book.
So well written, thank you! My children attend a wonderful christian school, and I am apalled at what some of these parents let their daughters wear to a school where God is praised in each and every classroom (these might be the same parents that let their children watch Jersey Shore…). As the mother of 2 daughters and 2 sons, I look at it from both sides: I want my daughters to feel good about their bodies but don’t want them to feel like they have to sell themselves by showing so much skin AND I want my sons free to go to school, the mall, the town fair, etc., without being exposed to sights that will cause their minds to go places they shouldn’t. From this angle, it’s not just about making sure the girls know their self-worth – it’s also about understanding the male mind and how completely visual they are, and how a young teenage girl dressed very sexy can deeply affect them. By the way, I have found Land’s End suits to be wonderful for my older daughter, who is very slender and very modest (she also has a large scar from her open heart surgeries). They fit well, are of good quality and are very cute. I recommend them to you mommies looking for nice bathing suits for your girls!
To Shelley in the comments above, I just have to say that although your daughter may be as pure as the driven snow–I’m sure she is a great girl–the image she is putting “out there” of herself is something different. This may have nothing to do with your daughter–how beautiful she is or how well she thinks of herself. It has much more to do with who is receiving the message she is sending. She deserves so much better than to have a guy looking her up and down because I promise you, his eyes will stop where her shorts do.
Thank you so much for this message! As the mother of a teenage girl, it seems like I’m swimming upstream in the clothing battle. Young women need to be reminded of the importance of being strong and standing on their God-given inner beauty instead of conforming to the standards of the world.
Yep, this is why our clothing bill for the princesses is way more than ours put together! Unless it comes from a home show or high end boutique store it is too, ahem, “growny” for us, and not in a good way!!!!
Thank the Good Lord I have boys! I don’t know If I could handle all of the girl issues today… especially after 10 years of teaching!!!
preach.
this is the area in which I live. And I’m fighting it with 3 boys and 1 girl in my house. I know it’s really a culture of immodesty but the L.A. area is truly interesting, b/c even at *CHURCH* we’re seeing it creep in. (is that happening elsewhere? I don’t know…?)
Praying along with all the others that *each* of us would know our worth and share it in love (YES!!) to this lost and dying world in the name of Jesus.
ok. coming off my box now too ;)
love you,
rachel
Amen! I have 3 daughters, 12, 15, and 16. Thanks to great resources (like Dana Gresh’s “Secret Keeper” series) I had early on, my girls are incredibly modest.
In response to Shelly W.: It doesn’t matter what message she is “sending” by wearing short shorts…my daughter and I can’t be responsible for what others think (besides they are going to “think and look at” whatever they want to look at, whether she’s in short shorts or not). And just so you all know, the guys in her high school say that their favorite clothing item for girls to wear are….get ready for it…YOGA PANTS! Which fully cover all of a girl’s ‘assets’ but are, for some reason, still their favs.
P.S. I don’t think my daughter is as pure as the driven snow…I’m a MUCH more realistic mother than that. But she is a GREAT girl :)
And, thanks Sophie, for the email :)
Just read this blog today ( http://memoriesoncloverlane.blogspot.com/2011/03/what-about-our-girls-childhood-cut.html ) and figured you had read it too from your content. Take a look!
I’m with ya. Have you read clover lane? Another post from the same day with a very similar theme…..http://memoriesoncloverlane.blogspot.com/2011/03/what-about-our-girls-childhood-cut.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+CloverLane+%28Clover+Lane%29
So marvellous to know I’m not the only one concerned by this!!
Rise up mamas.
I teach sixth grade, and let me tell you this literally brought tears to my eyes. I am constantly shocked, surprised, and saddened by the things I see some of these precious girls AND boys participating in. The things they know, wear, talk about, are concerned with, etc. – they are no longer allowed a childhood, and it really disturbs me.
I’m somewhere between young girl and young girl’s mom, but this post still resonated with me. You have a beautiful heart and much wisdom. Thanks for sharing. It resonated with me in a big way.
Oh my word!!! This is one of the most profound things I have read in a while. I read it to Mike and my teenagers! It is one of the things we struggle with over and over – the inappropriate nature of clothes, TV shows, etc. Love you and can’t wait to see you!
A few years ago we were at Knott’s Berry Farm and there was a whole group of girls from a SCHOOL (I think they were in the drill team, or cheerleaders?) that had on short-shorts that said “TAP THIS” on their bottoms! Their school logo was on their shirts! I am thinking they had some dim advisor or teacher that didn’t have a clue when they ordered those shorts.
Spot on, sister. Spot. On. :)
As the mom of a 2.5yo girl who wears a size 5, I’m SO aware of this. I mean I don’t think she’s even old enough for “little girl clothes” — she should still dress like a toddler. But the clothes I’m finding in the little girls’ department are well, kinda whore-ish (subtlely was never my strong point).
Raising a daughter in this world is going to be the biggest challenge of my life. I pray daily that she always knows what she’s worth. Which has spurred me to know what I’m worth– it only took 34 years.
Signed,
Rambly McRambleton
We have one rule: we are not going to advertise what’s not for sale. Very hard even with 4 and 6 year old girls. So far, I have found ONE bathing suit apiece for this summer!
While I am not a mother, I do (vividly) remember this phase. And it wasn’t so much about WANTING to dress like a *ahem* lady of the night, it was more about wanting to be noticed, and that I looked good in these clothes. (Which for a 15 year old with shockingly low self esteem was the crux of it) And looking back, I really don’t think what I wore was that bad…but I suppose you’d have to ask my mom for an unbiased view ;)
On a separate note: Girls aren’t always going to listen. I think music is an excellent means of communication when people won’t listen. So for the moms:
Buy Superchick. Any album, doesn’t matter. Those girls ROCK and they are all about girls being empowered for who they are. They’re also Christian, and quite modest. Barlow Girls is also good, but I think Superchick is better. And the best song I have ever heard in regards to the topic is More Beautiful you by Johnny Diaz.
Just a thought. Blast Superchick through the house when you’re cleaning. Eventually it’ll get into their heads. :)
Agree. And every year I’m more and more disturbed by the selection of Halloween costumes for our children. Boys its blood and gore but girls its all strumpet wear.
Wonderfully well-said!
Preach it, sister! Anna Katherine is about to turn 14, so we are right in the throws of the clothing issues. Fortunately, she desires to dress modestly. Yet she also wants to be fashionable. It is a challenge to find clothing that meets both of those specifications. Not only are shorts getting shorter, but DRESSES are extremely difficult to find in a length that is appropriate for church (or any other public setting outside of one’s own bedroom). She is long-legged, and while we could add some cute tights or leggings in the winter, we don’t have that option (or may not desire that option) in the spring/summer months. And then there’s the spaghetti straps or altogether strapless situation to deal with…as cute as that may be, it just doesn’t work for church. I could jump up on that soapbox with you, Sophie…as I like to tell Anna Katherine, it’s best to keep the boys wondering! They really prefer a girl who is modest. And, above all, it honors God. (Not to mention her Mama and Daddy won’t let her out of the house if she isn’t well-covered!!)
AMEN!