All The Reflective-y Reflections

This morning Alex had a dentist appointment, and before we got there I decided that I was going to use my time in the waiting room to crush some candies. For the last couple of days my TV viewing has taken priority over playing Candy Crush, but by diggity this morning I was dead set on playing catch-up.

I’ve been stuck in the Easter Bunny Hills for a sweet forever, people. It’s time to at least try to move on.

After we sat down, I grabbed my phone and started to look for my reading glasses. The reading glasses have become critically important ever since I went to the eye doctor about a month ago. I now need a stronger contact lens in my left eye so that I can see far away, and apparently that increase makes it more difficult for me to see up close. The cruel irony is that I can see up close JUST FINE, THANK YOU VERY MUCH when I’m not wearing my contacts – but if I don’t wear my contacts, I can’t really see the lines on the road or, you know, read signs. So I wear the contacts because, well, SAFETY, and I’m sure that it’s just a matter of time before I’ll be wearing my reading glasses on one of those chains around my neck just like all my mama’s friends did when I was growing up.

Listen. Getting older will BREAK DOWN some vanity. It will BREAK IT ON DOWN.

Unfortunately, however, I left my reading glasses at home, and I couldn’t very well crush all those candies if I could not in fact see them. I also couldn’t check Twitter unless I was willing to sit on the waiting room sofa while holding my phone two feet away from my face. So after a few minutes, I resigned myself to doing absolutely nothing for the next 45 minutes, and then I thought. And I thought. And I thought.

I thought about all the many things.

I thought a whole lot about 2013.

And I came to the conclusion that 2013 was pretty much something else. I even made a mental list of some of my favorite moments. It went a little something like this.

– Mississippi State played for a National Championship in baseball, and I even got to watch part of the College World Series with Emma Kate at her house. There was a delightful abundance of yelling that night.

Melanie and I both released books, and thank goodness she went first because it equipped her with the ability to listen to all my worrying and then say SIMMER DOWN, GLADYS with some authority. Our weekend at Living Proof Live in Atlanta this past June was a memorial stone moment for sure.

– David and I went on a five-day trip all by ourselves and had the best time. Like Mel, he should get some sort of award for patiently dealing with all my writing-related insecurity (not to mention my tendency to overcommit, which is a WHOLE ‘NOTHER STORY).

– Sister and I continued our Egg Bowl winning streak in Starkville and rang our cowbells for a solid 30 minutes after the game was over. I’m so glad we were there.

– I got to spend more time than I normally do with my best friends from college, and every single time we laughed so hard that my bladder totally betrayed me. There’s not a more supportive, loving group of people on the planet.

– I was reminded over and over again why the state of Mississippi is my favorite place on earth.

– One night this summer when I was at Mama and Daddy’s, I couldn’t sleep and got up to get some water from the kitchen. When I was on the way back to the bedroom, I saw Mama sitting up in her bed and reading my book. I said, “Why in the world are you reading that?” – and she said, “Oh, I just keep reading it over and over again.” I may have cried. My family has been incredibly gracious about the book stuff. And, you know, the fact that I wrote about them.

– My friend Heather and I went to see NEEDTOBREATHE at a place here in Birmingham that only seats about 300 people. It was one of the happiest musical moments of my life. Such a highlight.

– I have some sweet young friends who are in high school, college, and grad school, and by this point David knows that when I talk about them, I’m gonna get teary-eyed. Those relationships bring me so much joy.

– Not too long ago I asked Alex if he ever feels pressure to be perfect (he tends to err on the side of driven), and he said, “No ma’am” – almost like I had just asked him if he wanted to dye his hair purple. I said, “Really? Why is that, do you think?” – and he said, “Because I’m made in God’s image. And if He made me, that’s enough. I’m enough.” So that was a word.

There are more sweet memories for sure – and oh have mercy there’s also been some icky, difficult stuff that I haven’t necessarily blogged about because BOUNDARIES. The bottom line, I reckon, is that it hasn’t been an easy year by any stretch of the imagination, but I can honestly say that it’s been such a good one. And what I kept thinking about as I sat in the dentist’s office this morning is that people really do make all the difference (well, people and Jesus, but you know what I mean). I didn’t have a single memorable moment this past year that wasn’t directly connected to another person. And I’m mighty grateful that our friends and our families are God’s very best instruments for mercy and grace and laughter in our lives. 2013 has been such a reminder of that.

Happy 2014, everybody!

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  1. I have that exact same issue with my eyes. And Candy Crush. Now, if only I can come up with a retrospective, I’ll be all set. (Just coming out of Feedly-land to leave a real comment.)

    • you all need to look into laser eye surgery. truly a miracle of perfect vision. well, not for close-up, but such a blessing to not be nearsighted anymore, after wearing strong glasses since 4th grade.

  2. Love the part about your Mama reading your book. And what Alex said. Wow! Out of the mouth of babes.

  3. Wel said, as always! You’ve been a great addition for me in 2013 as I started reading your blog, listened to you podcasts (which make me laugh so hard my bladder nearly betrays me), and read your great book. That quote from Alex is precious, and that’s a testimony of his mama and daddy’s rearing and taking him to church. Thanks for making me laugh. Happy New Year to you! :)

  4. Sitting here, feeding Oliver, and the word from Alex made me teary eyed. So sweet! Happy New Year to y’all!

  5. Well, I’m happy you forgot those reading glasses since it generated this thoughtful post! Oh, the moment with your mom reading your book… SO. SWEET. Wishing you all joy in 2014, Sophie! Your writing is a blessing to me. Thank you for sharing your talents in such a funny, real, and gracious way.

  6. Sweet memories for sure! I am on the other side of that lane with a whole lot o’ heavy, sad memories. Losing my best friend’s husband in January and my momma and daddy 18 days apart in Aug and Sept has made for a hard year, but through it all, God has carried me and my family and the memories began to be sweet again. I do not know how people get through life without Jesus! He has sustained me and reminded me countless times of His presence! We just got back off the Disney cruise with our children and grandchildren~now THAT my friend will soothe your soul and cure whatever ails you (as my daddy used to say!)
    Happy New Year Sophie, thank you for your words and kindness! May 2014 be a wonderful year for you and yours!

  7. I may or may not have just cried and laughed out loud reading this post. As I do with most of them. Thanks for always making us laugh!!! What a great year for our Bulldogs! I still can’t wrap my head around the ‘We played for a NATIONAL CHAMPIONSHIP!’ statement. I’ll take it EVERY time. Especially since it was my sport, baseball. I can’t wait for 2014. BRING IT!

    • Oh and NEEDTOBREATHE is my all time FAV band and their concerts are AMAZING. I can only imagine an intimate 300 person concert. JEALOUS.

  8. Renee Wheeler says:

    Happy 2014 to you too! I bought your book as a Christmas gift to myself and I am really enjoying it. I wasn’t expecting it to “church” me but it is and I am listening. Thank you for that!

  9. Oh my word, the tears started flowing at “Because I’m made in God’s image. And if He made me, that’s enough. I’m enough.”

  10. The joy I am filled with when reading your posts! I laugh, I cry, and I may spit-take some coffee every now and again. The comment by A about being made in God’s image? Oh, my heart. Happy New Year, Sophie. I look forward to another fun-filled year of your posts and podcasts!

  11. Kathleen George says:

    So true Sophie, faith, family & friends. Looking forward to your posts & podcasts in 2014. Happy New Year! Kathleen in Az

  12. All I can say is that when I read Alex’s response to your question about needing to feel perfect, I got tears in my eyes. I don’t even know you or Alex but that was just the most precious thing. Good job, mama, for raising your boy with some Truth!

  13. What a true blessing it must have been to see Need to Breathe with only 300 people in attendance. They are one of my all time favorite groups. May you have a blessed New Year and thanks for all the laughs and special posts. You are true gem!

  14. Well, first, I just want to say that the whole reading glasses dilemma is shared, my friend. I am in the exact same boat! It is humbling to stretch your arm to its limits just order some quesadillas. Second, 2013 has been a year of enlightenment for sure! And last, meeting you at Social in Memphis was just delightful! Thanks for wiring your book and enduring all the stress that entails so we can be entertained and uplifted by you an your people’s stories. You have a gift, Sophie”BooMama” and thank you so much for sharing it.

  15. Tracey Knight says:

    sophie, you are just a delight to the soul. listen, this reading glasses thing? it’s a milestone. i had to make exactly the same adjustment this year. i am convinced that the 10 pounds i’ve gained back since august is b/c i can’t read the twitter while i’m on the treadmill anymore therefore i’m not able to distract myself from the fact that i’m exercising so then i don’t go as long. it’s a dilemma. i also bought a CHAIN. it’s a cute chain, but a chain nevertheless b/c after all, i’m 50 now & glasses don’t have a locator app.
    i love that word from alex. we moms have to hang on to those sacred moments!
    happy new year to y’all!

  16. What a wonderful post! I am so thankful that my mom bought all of her girls your book. We went home to Mdn over Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I kept referring to your final chapter in the book saying, “It’s not just about the food”. Your book and blog have been a blessing to me, and I can’t wait for the next one.

    Finally, I must say your son’s words struck a chord with me. Suffering from the “Martha Complex” and always feeling like I have to please everyone, his words made me cry and gave me the greatest sense of relief. YOU are a great mama to have taught your son to think that way.

    Heading to the grocery store now to get snacks for our Bulldogs to play in the LIberty Bowl today. Go ‘Dogs!

  17. Sophie, thank you for sharing your life and musings with us. Happy New Year and may 2014 be filled with many more memory-making opportunities!

  18. “Because I’m made in God’s image. And if He made me, that’s enough. I’m enough.” Oh wow, that is enough – to know that your child gets it and at such a young age. Such wisdom in one so young. If only everyone could figure that out while young, how much more contented we’d be as adults. Thanks for sharing.

  19. just wanted to let you know how much i have enjoyed your blog over the years…every since you first posted a comment on the LPM blog…and that little picture came up in the corner with the lady in bloomers rolling on the ground laughing you had me….through your blog i have linked to so many other great blogs/people. love your sense of humor…you really do have me laughing outloud!!! happy and healthy 2014! excited to see what the new year brings!! a big hug and hello from New Jersey!!!! no…. not from the shore ;) lets have cawfee dawl!!!

  20. Be still my heart! Your sweet Alex is wise beyond his years. And wonderful to reflect with such a grateful heart. I’m thankful a friend introduced me to your blog. Happy New Year to your people!

  21. HAPPY NEW YEAR SOPHIE!!!! :) To you and your boys xoxo Thank you for sharing your life with us all.
    I have to say one of the best things that happened to me in 2013 was discovering your blog. I had seen your name on Pioneer Woman a few times and thought yeah, yeah I’ll check her out one day (shame on me that it took so long). So, I did and well I just have to say it was love at first sight!! I went back and read every single post in your archives. I loved every minute of the month or so it took me to read it all. You are Awesome!!!!! I got your book, which is so funny but at the same time made me cry and helped me with my walk with God. Thank you xoxo
    Lots of love for the new year and I can’t wait until your next book comes out.
    Sam in Queensland, Australia.

  22. Thank you for your sweet and insightful emails this year that have helped me work on some stuff related to some things ;) This was a lovely post!

    A very happy 2014 to the Boofamily!

  23. Oh my word what Alex said made me sob! Some of us take our whole lives to figure that one out.

  24. I am sure that I am a little strange, but I embraced the reading glasses. I got mine about 2 years ago and I was so excited to pick out a new accessory. Then for my birthday my best friend got a chain for me. Not just any chain, but a Brighton chain. It is very classy and I love it!

  25. Melissa in Idaho says:

    Thank you Sophie… and Alex. I am going to put his comment on my mirror to remind me each morning that I am enough.

  26. I had the same issue with being able to see to read great without my contacts, but not so well with them in. My eye doctor prescribed contacts for me with one being for close up and one for distance. They work great! Not as difficult as it sounds. For me, anyway. Now I only wear reading glasses for very tiny print.
    Always enjoy your posts!!

  27. Oh, I just got my daughter your book yesterday. As others, you make me laugh, cry and everything inbetween. So, so sweet about your Mom. You know we Moms can be downright sentimental when it comes to our kiddos. Blessings to you!

  28. I love this my friend :-) happy new year to you!